Do you want to be happy?
There is no person who doesn’t want to live a happier life. All of us are constantly in search of happiness.
Healthy Smart Life asking you: Do you think you are a valuable person? No matter whether your answer is yes or no, try to explain why you think that?
Do you know who is responsible for a big portion of suffering in your life?
Keep reading to find out the answer to this question!
Why I’m unhappy?
One of the reasons we аrе often unhappy is when we have not accomplished something that we planned.
In fact, it is very usual for us to think this way: “I am a valuable person only if I…and that sounds something like: successful, qualified, loved, accepted, appreciated, reliable, fair, respected, etc.
Very likely when we do not finish what we planned, we criticize ourselves and say something like: “I’m an idiot, stupid, clumsy”, etc.
If you find yourself in this said above, you believe in something that is your misconception, which brings a big portion of unhappiness in your life.
Here’s why!
Estimating your value
It is very harmful and dangerous to assessing your own or someone else’s value.
The only things that we are able to estimate are our own or someone else’s decisions, actions, goals.
You should completely accept yourself, because:
- You are a human being and you are a valuable person despite your profession, qualifications, relationship, money, clothes, family members, or something similar.
A bill of 100 dollars will not lose its value even if it’s wrinkled, stepped on, or washed in the laundry machine.
- Everyone makes mistakes, because it is in human nature, and you are no different.
You can do your best and again make a mistake. You already have seen that.
You are not a robot but a human being, right?
Making mistakes does not make you worthless human beings.
- Your actions in life are sometimes great and sometimes bad, no matter how hard you try.
It is important to accept the responsibility for your actions, to reduce or compensate for the damage as much as possible, instead of degrading, criticizing, and hurting yourself.
- Every person constantly changes, and so do you.
There is no evidence that you are a worthless or bad person, despite anything…- There is no evidence that your successes increase your value and your failures decrease your value.
- If you have acted badly, there is no proof that you will behave this way for the rest of your life.
This does not mean that in the future moment you will not correct your behavior and act differently
- It is better to evaluate the value of your actions than your whole personality. Individuals are much more than their behavior; they are what they do or do not. Behavior is only one small part of human beings.
- What you did is maybe bad or good, only for that reason you are neither bad nor good
You should make the effort to completely accept yourselves because, if you don’t, you will always have to be faced with a guilty conscience, embarrassment, depression, anger, and anxiety.
6 benefits you will gain accepting the above facts
If you accept the truths above, your life will become less stressed more enjoyable and finally, more happiness will knock on your door.
Understanding and acceptance these facts will help you:
- To free yourself of the enormous stress that you have created for yourself,
- Not being too rigid on yourself,
- You will live more liberally,
- You will not lose your self-confidence so fast
- You will stop feeding your fear and worries as they will lead you towards anxiety and depression.
- In the end, you are going to reach a happier, less self-defensive, and more productive life.
Healthy Smart life wishing you to enjoy the positive change.
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