Do you sometimes have a difficult time because of someone’s wild and unrespect behavior? And you believe that those people are worthless.
Do you divide people around you as worthier and less worth?
What help you to make a difference?
Can we accurately measure the worth of a person?
The majority of us divide people as worthy, less worthy, and worthless. The reason for this sometimes is the idea that human behavior is equated with man’s worth, that is
Man = his behavior = his worth
EXAMPLE:
My neighbor = didn’t say hello = he’s a piece of garbage
Me = I was late to work = I am stupid
My friend = not called me = he/she is bad person
Sometimes we are pretty sure that based on this formula we accurately can measure the worth of a person.
We believe that a person’s worth is determined only by his behavior. This opinion means a very simple look at human nature.
Anytime when people around us do not meet our expectations we put down them and say that they are: evil, rude, incapable, crazy, which means they are less worthy.
The same is when we are not able to meet our own expectations, failing to achieve some of the realistic and unrealistic goals we have set. Very often we criticize telling ourselves: I’m idiot, stupid, incapable, worthless.
This is a very simple formula: man = his behavior = his worth.
If we use it regularly we going to start thinking that all people are worthless, because in our everyday life we are constantly faced with someone’s bad behavior.
The intolerance for human behavior can create a series of emotional disturbances ranging from small to intense anger, disgust, blame, and perhaps more violent emotions.
Can we estimate accurately someone’s worth?
- Psychologists say it is impossible to estimate the worth of a person. A person is so much more than his/her behavior. He/she is a complex creature with multiple and varying characteristics, traits, temperaments, skills, and talents; awareness and unawareness, with emotions, goals, and motives… the behavior is human’s only one of many parts.
- Humans constantly change and grow. When someone treats you badly, it is said that he/she is a bad person. But no one is either just good or just bad; we are all sometimes good and sometimes bad. Can we make the exact evaluation of a person’s behavior and say that just because there were 102 bad reactions and 98 good reactions, that person is bad… What about 98 good reactions? Then how are we able to determine whether the person is just good or just bad?
- All of us have a lot of friends, colleagues, relatives, etc. For some of them, we think they are nice people, for others they are rude. But do we know all of their past and do we have a guarantee that they will always act that way in the future?
- To be able to come up with an accurate evaluation, we have to know all of their actions, objectives, motives, emotions, behaviors, and decisions in the past, present, and future. Is this possible?
- People sometimes act badly because of not knowing, stupidity, or emotional instability. But this does not prove that they are only bad.
Does it possible to evaluate someone’s worth?
In fact, it is impossible to evaluate someone’s worth. Every one of us is very complicated and not a perfect person, so it is good to accept this fact, and expect nothing.
It is more advisable to accept oneself as a quite imperfect person with general human limitations and imperfections. You don’t need to give yourself a hard time due to someone else not respecting, rude, or uncivil behavior. Focus on their positive traits and let them go.
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